It’s officially honeymoon week! We could not be more excited to escape the winter weather in Atlanta and enjoy a white (sandy beach) Christmas on a cruise through the Bahamas. You may be thinking, “wait didn’t you get married in August? Aren’t you supposed to go on your honeymoon right away?” Yes we got married in August, but we decided to wait to go on our honeymoon. It may seem a little unusual at first, but waiting was the best option for us and can be for you too!
Nine months ago, we were set on going on our honeymoon right after the wedding. After stressing over wedding planning and our impending move across the country, we figured a vacation was exactly what we needed! Plus, everyone went on their honeymoon right after the wedding, or so we thought. On our first day of pre-marital counseling, our leader, Tim, asked us about our honeymoon plans. We told him that we were hoping to go on a cruise right after the wedding. He thought that a cruise sounded fun, but wondered if we had considered waiting to go on the honeymoon. He said couples who waited were usually much happier with their experience. The idea was intriguing, but at that point, we still wanted to leave right away.
Have you all heard the saying about when you make plans, God laughs? That’s exactly what happened in our situation. Tyler was accepted into Georgia Tech in the spring, so Shayne started looking for jobs in Atlanta right away. Once she was offered a job, Shayne was asked to move across the country ASAP. Because of the new job and needing time off for the wedding, taking another week for a honeymoon wasn’t feasible. We weren’t able to go on our honeymoon right away, but it turned out to be a blessing in disguise. Here is a list of four reasons why we are glad we waited to go on our honeymoon.
- Enjoyed Company That Came In For The Wedding – We got married on a Friday morning, so we had a whole weekend to spend time with all of our guests that came to support us. On the wedding day, we were able to spend a few minutes with each guest, but the extra days following the wedding allowed us to spend more quality time with special people in our lives. Since we postponed the honeymoon, we were able to go out to breweries and baseball games with friends, eat lunch the next day with family and that lives far away, and catch up with people we hadn’t seen in a while.
- Relaxed After The Wedding – Planning a wedding is so much fun, but it is also exhausting. After the wedding, we wanted (okay actually needed) to relax. We’ve had many friends who went on their honeymoon right away. While they had fun, many said they were tired and weren’t able to fully enjoy the experience. Since we waited, we got to fully recover from the festivities and are ready to enjoy the time away.
- Got Established as a Married Couple – After we were married, we moved in together as most couples do. Yes our move across the country was a bigger move than a lot of couples experience, but in both cases, moving in together is a big life change. Couples that go on their honeymoon right after their wedding may start to stress about what has to be done once they get back from the vacation. Moving, name changes (a much more complicated process than it seems), and potentially finding or starting a new job can be a distraction from enjoying the honeymoon. After four months of marriage, we have ourselves more settled in to our new life together. We can simply enjoy our time on our honeymoon with less to distract or worry us.
- Looked Forward to Something – Our wedding was the most special day of our lives. It would have been wonderful to be whisked away to a tropical destination following the wedding, but waiting gave us something to look forward to. When work got tough, classes were hard or life felt dull, we always had the honeymoon to look forward to. Now that it is here, we realized how much it helped motivate us throughout the last four months.
We highly recommend waiting a couple months to go on a honeymoon. We know it is not always feasible or the traditional choice, but we experienced plenty of benefits from waiting. Share this post with a friend and leave us a comment below and let us know your opinion on honeymooning!